Ten things I've learnt about surviving being a foster carer - by Debbie Douglas
In this blog, Debbie Douglas, an experienced foster carer (and star of The Only Way Is Essex), shares ten thoughts on how she has 'survived' being a foster carer.
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- Warmth and kindness always shines through. Smile. Because those who don't smile back need it the most.
- Every single child that comes into your home will be scared (wouldn't you be?). Their fear will empty out in a million different ways.
- No matter what journey they have travelled children will always love their family. Home is home.
- Never go to bed on an argument. In your darkest moments tomorrow is another day.
- Words are cheap, actions are powerful. Show them you love them unconditionally...the simplest of gestures speak thousands of words.
- There are always reasons for behaviours. It is about you finding them.
- You will be many things...a carer...a nurse...a friend...a coach...a teacher...a therapist...a night whisperer. Be prepared to wear many hats.
- Educate yourself beyond every comfort zone you can imagine, because in order to wear all these hats education is powerful.
- Never judge...never think you hold the answers. Sometimes there aren't any. It's called acceptance.
- Love truly conquers all.
